Dear Readers,

There is no arguing… “The more, the merrier”!

2 months ago, Lily La Tigresse, her fabulous taste and oh so She is French attitude joined She is French to write about everything from hot reads to leather corsets and sexy photography.

But as much as Girls just wanna have Fun… She is French wouldn’t exist without Men!

Smoking hot, provocative with a tongue-in-cheek humor and an extensive Franco-American culture, let me introduce you to Ze Seducteur!

How to woo a French Woman is the title of his new series: Men, please take notes and Ladies, you don’t, I repeat you DO NOT have to be French to seduce like a French Women !

~ She

Ok, so you’ve got a crush on that cute French chick. You are preparing your approach. I suggest you also prepare for a culture clash, no matter how much “game” you’ve got with American women. The US-France love-hate relationship is a wonderful and bewildering story of mutual admiration and scorn. Trust me on this. In this series, I explain the top 5 things you should do differently when trying to woo a French woman.

Full disclosure: I am single, divorced 10+ years ago. So of course … you should take everything I have to say about dating as pure gospel. As further credentials, I was born and raised in English Canada, but schooled in the classic French Lycée system because my family was originally from Paris. I lived (and dated) in France for many years, and now call New York home. I have one foot firmly on each side of the Atlantic divide. This might explain my continued singlehood … I’ve yet to meet that perfect French/American hybrid. But I digress…

So, let’s begin. Why do we (North American men) find French women so charming and irresistible? Why is Amelie so darned cute? She’s not “hot” by any means. So why is she so attractive? Why is the mere thought of a Parisian girl on a bicycle on a lovely Spring day enough to make most American men want to drop everything and call Air France? How can Catherine Deneuve at 60+ still command such awe in a way that, say, Susan Sarandon can’t? The answer may shock you: it is because, in most respects, the Women’s Movement NEVER HAPPENED in France. Not in the way it happened here. Not even close. It’s that simple. It didn’t need to. France has fewer women in politics today than Portugal. When a French politician is caught with a mistress, his poll numbers go up! Among both sexes. (It suggests he’s healthy). Does this mean French women are powerless? Far from it. It’s just that power is wielded differently. And trust me once more, as a man you have NO WAY to defend against the French Feminine Mystique. You will be putty in her hands. But first, she’s got to accept you and deem you worthy. How can you achieve this?

For starters, forget everything you ever learned in your US college about political correctness and gender equality and all that agonizing sensitivity training shit. All of it. Women may be different from men, but French women take it to the extreme. They never bought into the “equality” of the sexes. To a French woman, the feminine/masculine difference is to be cherished and preserved. Period. Nothing will make her relinquish her power as a playful muse, sexy temptress, loving wife, commanding mother and yes, this implies that she is very comfortable playing the “weaker” sex. Playing, I say; not being.

If you watch Mad Men, look at how domesticated US women had to be in the 50’s and early 60’s. All that prim proper servile silliness. US women stridently rejected it in the feminist 60’s and 70’s. Then came a massive wave of divorces (70% petitioned by women). These baby-boomer women (think Hillary) raised smart, educated “you can do anything” daughters (think Chelsea). Unfortunately, sex appeal was not on the curriculum. Sexy was seen as “servile”. Sex, in fact, became a sin. This sex-as-sin paradigm suited both liberal (feminist) and conservative (religious) baby-boomer women. Sex was what got mom into so much trouble. Growing up, girls who looked for role models on how to feel attractive had to rely on MTV and frat boys oogling at strippers. Think Girls Gone Wild. That, in my opinion, is why American the definition of “sexy” today is so darned raunchy: even good girls now have a collection of stripper shoes. American Apparel makes a fortune channeling every girl’s inner slut.

To a French woman, this is inconceivable. So if you are enthralled with porn star aesthetics, then a French woman is not right for you. Dressing like a hooker is not how she was taught to be feminine, because her sex was never a “sin” in the first place. Her definition of attractive is simple: stay thin, dress nicely, remain charming. Be elegant and refined at all times. Seduce with wit and conquer with a pleasant smile. You can just hear the US feminists scream nooooooo!

Now isn’t that a world you’d like to live in?

Next week: Tip #1 If sex is not a sin to her, then what is? Hint: money!

~ Ze Seducteur